Today was the best day I’ve had in a very long time.
The court order is now looking far more likely. The attorney was super-nice and he made us feel very welcome and seemed genuinely concerned for the pain my deadname was causing me and what he wrote to support the request for a court order was brilliant
Apparently, my situation has exposed a loophole (a bad one) as far as transgender permanent residents in the United States goes. US permanent resident cards in the correct name and gender and foreign documentation such as passports and drivers licenses should be accepted by Social Security and state agencies such as DMVs, as should. He said that my case may help others in the future and I cannot be the only transgender permanent resident in New York State or the United States in general. Perhaps it will lead to a change in law, although under Trump, that is unlikely at Federal level.
I’m glad that my support worker was able to come with me. She helped me a lot, even just by distracting me when we talked about the UK.
This morning, one of the support workers took us to a thrift store. There were supposed to be more residents coming along, not it was just me and a man who seemed pretty easy going, although he made me nervous trying to talk to me before the support worker got in the van. Anyway, it was a massive thrift store and I could’ve spent all day in there, but we were limited to just under an hour. I bought a skirt, a sundress and a maxi dress in lieu of warmer weather hopefully soon.
I don’t want to count my chickens before they hatch, but the attorney doesn’t think there will be a problem with getting the court order. I may not even have to have an ad placed in a local paper, due to the fact that it is a transgender name change and I don’t want any of the public knowing what my name was. But that’s immaterial compared to everything else. The worst case scenario didn’t happen this time and I can most likely stay here and focus on other things. I’m not out of the woods by any stretch, but I’ve found a path that will hopefully lead me out of the deepest, darkest part of the woods.
Until I get the court order in my hand, I’m just going to continue going to therapy, going out as much as I can and I’ll continue to read, since that’s something Adderall has helped me do, in terms of my ability to absorb information and concentrate. I’ve almost blasted through a 400+ page book in just over a week. This would’ve taken me 2-3 months in the past.
I made myself a salad and baked potato for dinner. It tasted like the best meal I’ve had in ages. I’d go to the coffee shop, but heavy rain is forecast and I don’t have an umbrella.