I admit that I do harbor a degree of internalized transphobia, but it is as a result of multiple negative experiences with transgender people offline and online.
I put a pathetic ad on Craigslist seeking friends. I got a few responses, but nothing worthwhile. The most recent was from a transgender man. He seemed okay at first, until he questioned me as to why I don’t like talking about transition. His final email upset me. It was laden with accusations and sarcasm and he rescinded his initial offer to meet for coffee:
I’m judged by transgender people for not wanting to discuss transition and for believing that the push for trans “visibility” is a BAD idea. I just want friends and would be open to making transgender friends, except that almost every transgender person I meet does the same thing, including mentioning how much they pass, which is narcissistic behavior. I don’t care to talk about transgender issues or get involved with activism.
Just leave me alone and get on with being men or women and part of the human race, rather than exist to reinforce differences that I and many others would rather just forget.